When someone values you, they WILL act right! And you won’t have to beg, plead or bother. Because no one wants to lose a thing that they truly value.

I can’t imagine life without my family. I talk to them every day, I see them every day, I’ve known them all my life, and they’ve contributed to molding me into the person I am today. I value them. And because I value them, I wouldn’t intentionally hurt them and I think twice about making decisions that would affect them. However, some of our family members haven’t been in our lives forever. Perhaps your mother raised you and you don’t speak to your father. Your dad would probably be of lesser value to you than the rest of your family members. Just because someone has a title that should be valued, doesn’t necessarily mean they are.

The leading factor to valuing someone is time. Someone you met two weeks ago might tell you, “I know we just met a short while ago but I value you SO much and I can’t imagine my life without you.” But don’t believe everything you hear. They were living without you a couple weeks ago and they were breathing just fine! Don’t be shocked when your boyfriend of three weeks, who you already did everything for because he said he loved you, ends up hurting you. It really does take time to truly value someone.

Now be mindful of what they value you for. Do they value you for you, or for what you could do for them? What are you giving them? Because you might have mistaken being used for being valued. Your new boo might treat you amazingly if you’re giving them everything they want or need at the moment. Gifts, money, sex, and even an “image” might keep someone around for the time being, but trust me, that won’t last forever! Make sure that whoever you are dating values you for who you are.

Time will tell everything. Give it time before committing to someone new. Give it time before showering them with gifts and giving them the world. Give it time before believing every word they say. Patience is a virtue. So why rush something that is meant to last forever?

With love,

Brittany Kayla